Probably the biggest mistake I had been doing in my life was the apologetic approach with which I unconsciously terrorized everything, I had acted upon. That kind ofbehavior is practically always highly unattractive and makes you to repress all potentially “bad” aspects of your personality and habits (so you don’t need to be ashamed of them to often) and makes you some kind of a highlight of your personality traits, that are approved by the masses surrounding you. You become a nice guy in eyes of many, but on the other hand, you are killing a part of yourself with such self-repression. And as you can guess, that kind of behaviour is very far from total self-expression and consequently fromhappiness. But you’re beloved by the masses you say… Isn’t that something?
No, it isn’t, believe me. That way you become just one more of so many, a creature of tradition, with habits and values dictated by others. With no clear mission or purpose you would like to guide your lite to, and quite likely incapable of critical thinking. You become Just one more of the repeaters, guided and manipulated for benefits of others, nothing else than a passive player of your own life. With your wishes dictated by the marketers, self-esteem degraded by commercials, your free time exchanged for bad quality TV entertainment, and opportunities for analysis of thoughts and meditation polluted by the music from your iPod. TV news are terrorizing you with fear and conditioning you in scarcity of real knowledge and real news, to reject every culture and every fellow man, that is at least slightly different. We become likesheep and even worse; we don’t even need a sheep dog, while we, with our criticism and rejection of every deviation, force ourselves and others to realign back tothe path of the purpose of which we usually don’t have a slightest idea. Probably not the life you’re dreaming of…
So what is there to do? Just be unique, don’t be afraid to express the full spectrum of your personality… There is nothing to be ashamed of. Of course you make mistakes, we all do… So why should you regret them? Unless they are contradicting to your system of values, that is not a worthy practice. And you have your own value system, don’t you? Not the one brainwashed to you by your religion or some similar institution, but the one you really and sincerely believe in. The one that would really boost meaning to your life and sharp its core purpose. And for God’s sake, live your own life! (the same goes for me to 
) You owe this to your “Creator”; may it be a chimpanzee, or some extremely advanced intelligence. So in some way, you become a “bad boy” with nice values. Unapologetic about hisweaknesses, critical thinking, purpose guided and by value system oriented person, experiencing life at its fullest and appreciating others for what they are in their core and not to be limited by their prejudices and criticism. At least that is where I am heading forquite some time now and positive results are already evident…
While browsing through various social sites like Facebook, Netlog and others, I find it very interesting, how can some be so naive, to publish in their profile various photos of their main “attributes”, covered only in underwear, and than expect it to catch an eye of a guy, capable of honest and serious friendships or even partnerships. Of course, it catches my eye, no doubt about that… But I can assure you, thatinterest would be gone, as soon as I would get “my hour of satisfaction” (if we call it so), and than you would quickly realize, how you degraded yourself to nothing more than an “object of lust”.
Still there are some, that like to be seen by others. I can only hope, that the confirmation from them isn’t the main resource they build self-esteem an confidence upon. Because if that is so, I believe, they have no bright future ahead, at least from my perspective. So why behaving that way?
I still believe that true and sincere relationships based on deeper personal similarities, interlaced with trust and intimacy and upgraded with physical attractiveness, can be much more satisfying, they last much longer and can be amplified to higher degree of sex appeal than the ones described above. But they very rarely, if ever, start with a girl half naked, positioning herself in sexually challenging poses. This turns me on, I admit it, but that is really all it does…
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