Habits are an extremely powerful tool, when used right, but one of the greatest curses, when out of our control. They could be described as a kind of a way, how our subconsciousness helps us with the pursuit of our goals.
How does this process work?
Through our thinking and repetitive activities, we reprogram our subconscious mind to adopt that kind of behavior and execute it at the littlest effort invested possible. If we take Psycho-Cybernetics as a reference, it says that about three week to a month are required for this new attribute to domesticate itself in your mind.
Love is one of the greatest life’s pleasures… So don’t you ever dare to endanger its unselfish giving, by expecting, that it alone will bring happiness into your life.
Quite some hours last week, were dedicated to watching American civil war movies; Gettysburg, Glory and Gone with the wind. And seeing all those people fighting in such ridiculous way, with so many guaranteed casualties, can be quite mind bothering. How can you convince such masses to march over a long battlefield with such discipline, meanwhile sieged by canons, than under enemy’s gunfire and lastly, facing the enemies with bayonets. You need some kind of a minor miracle to motivate people for such a thing, or needn’t you?
Why wasting your precious time for people having no sincere intent in building of quality win-win relationship? Because we (or at least I) have better time to do with our(my) life, than supporting those “phony-confident”persona’s , searching only for confirmation from others in every walk of life possible. And there are many of them.. Especially on social-networking sites, many are presenting themselves (especially women) in various wannabe-sexy poses, hoping to be followed with as many unoriginal and overused-phrase comments as possible. And sooner or later they are grounded with the value of such compliments; they might be intriguing at first, but over time, their value decreases exponentially.. So why not rather invest the time spent in consolidating the relationships they are really interested in, and over time, get the opinions they could actually value? At least in my view, that would be a much better investment, especially if we also take in account Pareto principle, that could be saying, that we get 80% of our “relationships qualities” from 20% of folks we are involved with, and other 20% from the other 80% of the folks involved. So why dispersing our energy and intents all over the place, and not giving the first 20% our special attention for further improvement of our interactions, and that way creating a circle of friends from which opinions we could actually value?
I am still strongly convinced in the existence of fairy tales… Because I am the main star in one. And next time you define happiness with money and material goods, you should watch the following movie (Slumdog Millionaire (2008)). There are many people living way below our standards, with no access to services and goods we take as most trivial and granted, but still I could bet I can find as many if not more happy and blissful people amongst them. So be grateful for what you got, always strive for improvement (within reasonable limits), enjoy your life and make others to enjoy theirs too. Because we all have theability to live the life of suffering and sorrow and we also have the ability to enjoy every day, relationship, person or event in its blissfulness. It all depends on attitude towards life we choose for ourselves…
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