I believe there are some among us, that have faithfully allowed their colleagues, media, etc. to take charge over developing their own goals and life’s purpose. For them, the idea of having such a “standards complied” girl to be seen around with, alone presents the big enough source of satisfaction for all their needs. But all others, we need something more.. something with much more distant expiration date, something that will at once dismiss all our doubts and regrets, that could turn up while investing huge amounts of our love and energy into the selected person. And what is that “something”?

I believe it could be the respect of her/his personality and of course, some kind of a physical turn-on. The latter is already taken care of by our creator, we only need to find the way to manifest those charms at our best, but the former needs some more of our effort and attention. Nobody is born with an impressive character, only with its predispositions. Then it is up to us, how we’re going to develop it. And here comes the catch… our character consists of our habits, that are the result of continuous actions in its favor, and actions are the consequences of our thinking and philosophies. And as we are always heading along the path of the least resistance, we end up with two choices for altering the habits, which usually demand heavy effort end energy investments. Either we end up in conflicting situation that forces us to do so, or take our own initiative, which is quite illogically very rare (otherwise there wouldn’t have risen such business around quick diets, shortcuts to financial independence, etc.). And this is where that “standard beauty” become more of a curse, than a blessing. Because we tend to be much more sympathetic with the people that are most aligned with that social beauty standards. We are more likely to help them, and avoiding conflicts between us and them, by solving them in their favor. So people of such “curse” are much more likely to experience less life’s difficulties and therefore, the development of their character and good habits are very likely to stagnate, with slow or no positive development at all. Of course exceptions can be found, as they might have different problems (for an example, in a modeling world, it can be a very tough path to a successful career, with many testings of personal values, ethics, etc.), but I still believe that could only apply to a little minority, as for majority, the hypothesis described above could have a very solid grounds.

But what about beauty as such? The one above is mostly regarding to the society ideals, we are brainwashed by through different media channels and different traditions. But as for the other sorts, I’m strongly convinced It’s a very relative thing. As in economics, where there is some kind of demand, there can be some kind of value. So as nature made us, we’re all buyers at this, and we are the ones that put the “price tag” and express desirability over some personality or physical trait. And a question inevitably appears; What do we really value?

Not what the society expect from us, but what do we as individuals sincerely want? What character traits we respect most and what physical attributes turn us on most effectively? And as we all have different sets and combinations of these “preferences”, nature blessed us with the variety, that made it very possible for the “perfect” matches of our demands to be found. And to conclude, our “match” is as beautiful, as we make it. It all depends on how well we’re able to express this perfection, cherish it and welcome it in our life’s fairy tale. So there is no universal beauty, it all depends on how well we’re able to resonate with the chosen “perfection”, we decide to build our life around.

And lastly, to comment the title of this “article”… Most of the beauties (there are some exceptions of course) by so called “society standards” really are for the shallow “heroes” without any bright future in the eyes of a great character building and enjoying life in all its beauties on as many areas as possible. But for all others, we want something more… We want those angels, we could establish the greatest relationships with, and transform them to our best friends, as well the intimate ones, as the ones on the other areas of our cooperation. We search for the soul mates in creation, the most divine shape of the interlaced blissfulness for every individual, that will ever come in existence, called true love… And can such materialistic attitude towards beauty (as pointed out in the title) ever be the core foundation for this sensational, almost spiritual leveled feelings? I don’t believe so…

I would love to passionately guide her through the labyrinth of her deepest personal desires to eventually remove the shadows of mystery off the vasteness of her unique and exceptional femininity core.
Hand in hand we would head on a journey of awakening all of our senses, and together exploring all the pleasures beyond our current imagination. Pleasures experienced would know no limits, and our connection would be strongholded for centuries to come.
The state of happiness would be unmatched and anticipation of the next moment together unparalleled.
Prediction so perfect, it could be real… and it will be, sooner or later!
But for now, this is just a scenario, with the better half of the cast still missing

By seeing beyond what is visible to the eye. Now there are those, of course, who do not share my perceptions, it is true. When I say that all my woman are dazzling beauties, they object. The nose of this one is too large; the hips of another, they are too wide; perhaps the breasts of a third, they are too small. But I see these women for how they truly are… glorious, radiant, spectacular, and perfect… because I am not limited by my eyesight. Women react to me in the way they do, because they sense that I search out the beauty that lies within until it overwhelms everything else. And then they cannot avoid their desire, to release that beauty and envelope me in it.

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Have you never met a woman who inspires you to love? Until your every sense is filled with her? You inhale her. You taste her. You see your unborn children in her eyes and know that your heart has at last found a home. Your life begins with her, and without her it must surely end.

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There are those that do not believe that a single soul born in heaven can split into twin spirits and shoot like falling stars to earth where over oceans and continents their magnetic forces will finally unite them back into one. How else do you explain love at first sight.

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Every true lover knows that the moment of greatest satisfaction comes when ecstasy is long over, and he beholds before him the flower which has blossomed beneath his touch.

A perfect experience, worth striving for in your life. But the demand needed in return is huge – alignment with your true self, your primal core. So there’s still a lot of work ahead of me, but I will reach it, sooner or later .

P.S.: The only thing I was displeased with, was Jesse’s fear of responsibility. I believe it is one of the masculinity’s essentials, so should be well taken in account. Without it, you can’t be a leader of your own life. You will always be some kind of a follower.

One of my goals, as I stated in one of my previous posts, is to experience lifelong extraordinary love relationship. And every relationship usually starts with our approach to women (or otherwise if you’re lucky ). But since my sincerity and values only allow me approaching women I really like, you could guess this equation leaves me with lack in experience on this matter. Even so, I believe, I have built myself a strong character, allowing me to build quality win-win relationship, and I am also prepared to invest the effort needed to provide to the chosen girl the fairy tale she has always dreamt about.

But that is where I would need your assistance. I would like you to help me synchronizing my dream romance with yours (if you’re a female reader ). I just need as much info as I can get, so I will be able, through analysis, to find a pattern, that will aim my future actions in the right direction.

So I would really appreciate if you could share with others most memorable approach(es) you experienced, your wishes on how you would like to be approached, and any similar info on things in your relationship(s), that made your days or even years. And you don’t need to worry: I have strictly good intentions with the data gathered